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 If you haven't read this book, you need to.

In a world where we all talk about doing things, we don't as often talk about the things that we don't do, or better yet, the things someone else told us "no" to.

As I find myself looking for the next step in my career path, I am really happy I have read this book a while ago.

It really highlights how much of our decisions are based on our own fears and how we end up limiting ourselves by deciding in advance.

I have heard A LOT of "no" in the last couple of months. That in itself has been a really eye opening experience. I was always praised and build up and had all of the accolades. 

To find myself being judged, told you aren't the right fit, we don't see you being able to do it ... is maddening.

At the same time, it is allowing for a lot of self discovery and I am learning a lot about myself. It's really uncomfortable to look inwards and be brutally honest with yourself while at the same time having this drive or feeling that "yes I can".

Just keep focusing forward, take the opportunities that no bring and find ways to learn from each and every one of them.

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