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What's Your Quest?

 Are you living your own life or following someone else's compass?


Here are three questions for you:

What is your name?

What is your quest?

What is the airspeed velocity of an unladen swallow?

If you’re like most people, it was probably easy to answer two of those three questions. We all know our name, and a simple Google search can give us the other answer—twenty-four miles per hour.


I saw that today and it spoke to me. There has never been more pressure to "get life right". From what we have been taught, to a culture that is focused on keeping up and the onslaught of social media - most people don't understand how they don't have it together while so many other people do.


There are so many people in the world telling us what to do, who we should be and what is the right path it's easy to start living by someone else's rules.

The challenge that I have seen and experienced with this is that most people come to the realization that they are living by other people's rules much later than they should.

It is extremely difficult to be a nonconformist. To have the strength to challenge and question yourself and what you are being told to believe.

To quote Cornel West:

...dying takes the form of calling into question certain assumptions that you have. And if you let that assumption go, that's a form of death.


You have to be deliberate about your thinking. About your life.

To put as much effort into understanding yourself and what you are trying to achieve. It is as much "work" as anything else you will ever do in your life. The problem is, it isn't something that it formally taught, you have to do it on your own.

It will be hard, things will come up about yourself that will make you happy, sad, frustrated, angry - but in the end, that understanding and self-awareness of yourself is the most important thing you can do for yourself to build the life that you want.

Everything from there gets easier.

How you interact with others.

Where you want to work.

What is important to you and why.

Your ability to the design for the type of life that you want improves dramatically.

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